Don’t Tear Down Your Own House- Wisdom from the Incomparable Dr Velma Bagby

Navigating the value of love and the architecture of enduring marriages can be a complicated task. It is an journey that calls for wisdom, foresight, and the correct elements for construction. In my latest podcast episode, we dive deep into what makes a strong marriage and how individuals can build a relationship that withstands the test of time.

In my conversation with a distinguished author who, after retirement, found a renewed passion in dissecting the layers of love and companionship, we peek into her insights into the male perspective on relationships. Her dialogue with her husband and feedback from male readers bring in the discussion, presenting an authentic look into the needs and desires of men in relationships.

We also had the privilege of speaking about the main character in the Catch Series Pastor Grayson (who she says represents her father) in the conversation, who brings forth his wisdom on the foundations of a solid marital bond. The pastor emphasizes looking beyond the surface to the spiritual and emotional core of one's partner. Such a perspective requires us to seek qualities in a partner that are more enduring than physical attractiveness, aligning our choices with values that are time-tested, rather than fleeting societal norms.

As the episode progresses, we address the importance of personal growth and avoiding destructive behaviors. It is important for individuals to be the best version of themselves and to approach relationships with self-awareness and spiritual alignment. We discuss strategies to foster a positive mindset and behaviors to strengthen the marriage, supported by prayer, trust, and an optimistic outlook.

The cultural and societal influences that shape our perceptions and actions within a marriage are not to be overlooked. Our conversation reaches into how these factors can either create red flags when choosing a wife or reinforce the pillars of a strong marriage. The importance of aligning with principles and virtues that are consistent with GODLY wisdom is underlined, as is the significance of being open to changing cultural notions that conflict with the goal of building a respectful and inclusive partnership.

Furthermore, we go into the dangers of neglecting to address personal flaws before seeking a partner and the dangers of ignoring red flags in relationships. Stories of couples who have faced and overcome marital challenges provide a spectrum of experiences and underscore the necessity of confronting issues for the health of the relationship.

As the episode concludes with a contemplation on the role of faith in marriage. We use the metaphor from the song “Oceans” by Bri Babineaux which speaks of walking on water to illustrate the leap of faith involved in marriage, trusting in a higher power and maintaining focus through life's unpredictable waves. The personal declaration of commitment shared is a testament to the profound bond and sense of belonging that stems from spiritual surrender.

This episode can serve as guidance, reflection, and a call to prepare oneself for the voyage of marriage. It affirms the potency of faith and love in forging a resilient and gratifying marriage, serving as both a compass and an invitation to journey towards lifelong union with a kindred spirit.

In essence, building a resilient union is an art form, demanding patience, faith, and the right foundational principles. The spiritual thread that weaves through the fabric of marital ties is as significant as the emotional and practical aspects of a relationship. By exploring the depths of commitment, understanding the pillars of strength, and aligning with enduring values, we lay the groundwork for a companionship that can weather any storm.